The Golden Mic Podcast Hosted By Marc Cordon
Impression Management w/ Abby Havermann
Episode Notes from The Golden Mic Podcast:
“It was during one long night on a hard plastic cot on the floor of a jail cell that Abby came to terms with the life she had created, and the toxic voice inside her head which led her to do so. After all she reasoned on the eve of her arrest, she had married an unsocial, ambition-less, older man with whom she’d had almost nothing in common. But that was only how it began. The real fun started when her ex who had been in recovery for nearly twenty years, relapsed.
How did she get to this level of denial, this level of covering someone else's ass, succumb to this amount of mortification?
How did this become so much of a theatre of the absurd that at a classy get-together, her ex-husband, who was so hopped up on painkilers, caught on fire from a candle and had to be tackled by to the ground by another guest ruining the hosts fluffy white rug all while jazz music crooned in the background?
How did it get so bad that when tying his shoes - mind you, he was tying his shoes with no pants on - Abby would get shoved and slap him back, only for her to get cuffed and sent to jail?
Now, sitting on the cold floor of the jail cell she asked herself:
"What would drive me to marry someone I knew was all wrong for me?"
Another voice answered, "Well who else would marry you?"
That response was a gift. Now she could identify the voice inside her that required releasing for her to live a new life.
And that's the story of how Abby, a couple’s therapist at the time, would get a divorce from her relapsing husband who, wait for it… was an addictions counselor.
This episode was the first time Abby, a psychotherapist turned coach, and I actually spoke outside of our Gateless Writing group.
Not only do we talk about her story, but we go deep into generational unworthiness, saving face, trauma, and so much more.
This is yet another instant classic, and I invite you to hear her tell her story for yourself.
You'll be glad you did.”
