How to Make The Right Decision

Here are a few decisions I've made with my mind:

1. Bought a house I couldn't afford.

2. Got a puppy I couldn't take care of.

3. Joined a real estate program to fix and flip houses.

Here's the corresponding reasons I made those decisions:

1. My husband then was depressed, which made me anxious, so we rationalized that moving closer to nature would make it better.

2. My marriage was a month from ending (unbeknownst to my rational mind), and I thought a puppy would save it and make my toddler happy.

3. I was desperate for money and couldn't pay my mortgage (about which my ego was mortified) and I love real estate.

Here was the result in each case:

1. Lived in stress and shame for two years, repeatedly borrowing money from my mother only to be out a nanosecond later.

2. Broke my son's heart three times, instead of twice, when we divorced, had to move away from his friends, and then had to give the puppy away.

3. Went bankrupt as the program was a scam, and I'd bought three houses with my credit. My “partner” fled with money from the loans, and I was left with the debt.

I remember an internal voice saying in every situation, “You shouldn't do this. I remember experiencing resistance in my body, and I remember obstacles the Universe threw in my way to get me to listen.

Lest you think these were impulsive decisions, I thought about them a lot.

Unfortunately, 95% of the time, thinking is the worst way to decide. It's also the slowest and the least likely to be correct.

Don't misunderstand; there are no “wrong” decisions. Every experience assists in your Soul's evolution.

However, the quicker we learn to observe, disregard mind chatter, and rely on the heart center (instead of the intellectual center) or intuitive knowing, the easier our journey will be.

Good things to know:

• All the wisdom you need is inside you.

• If outside info is necessary, your intuition will prompt you to seek it.

• Taking other people's temperatures inhibits hearing your intuition.

• No one else can determine the proper choice for you.

• Intuitive decisions don't always feel good.

• When angry, irritated, self-righteous, and “certain,” you couldn't be further from wisdom.

You aren't alone. We have evolved in such a way that our intuition is sealed in soundproof Tupperware deep inside, but that doesn't mean it's not there.

Exercise for decision-making:

1. Sit quietly with your eyes closed.

2. Breathe in and out of your heart center.

3. Focus your attention on your breath until your mind stills.

4. As you consider the options, notice resistance in your body.

5. Ask each energy center if this is the right choice for you.

6. Sit with the intel you received.

7. Do NOT give up. You may need to do this many times over. 

All your answers are inside you.